Change and Stability
Ginger Stache

I love change. I thrive in it. It keeps me energized, passionate, and motivated. If you’re a visionary, you are likely the same.

My husband, Tim, is a stabilizer. He thrives on consistency. It keeps him peaceful, secure, and moving forward.

To be very transparent, it used to drive me nuts. I wanted new and different while Tim wanted to hold onto what he knew. It felt very at odds; constantly struggling against opposing goals. But not so much anymore.

I’m happy to report that over time, we have learned how very valuable and natural both of these perspectives are. There is a reason that God has made us all different! So, whichever side of the barbed wire fence you are on, we can all meet somewhere in the middle.

Change is a good thing! It is necessary for progress. Consistency is also a good thing! It leads to stability and longevity. One isolated from the other is a recipe for disaster. As a leader and as a wife and mother, I have learned how very much we need both.

I could easily change for the sake of change and neglect to take into consideration the needs of people who are more change resistant. Nonstrategic change leads to mistakes and creates an environment of insecurity. No one wants to feel in a constant state of flux or out of control – that includes workplace teams as well as family members.

Children are brilliant examples of this. Without consistency they lack security, and they push back. They may not realize it, but what is missing is the inherent trust a child needs to thrive. They don’t know what they can count on! They adapt amazing well to change IF it is walked out in a loving and safe environment. An environment that ensures them they will be okay no matter what.

People like my husband have the potential to get stuck in one position if they aren’t appropriately pushed to change when necessary. Without change, without some risk, people and teams may be comfortable but complacent and eventually unproductive.

I remember years back when our family was facing an out-of-state move. Change was coming in a big way, and we knew we wanted our kids to feel a part of every step possible. We included them in conversations and even decisions where appropriate. It didn’t come without it’s bumps and bruises, but we made it. We did it together and we have all shared in hind-site how very glad we are that we did!

So, where do we find the balance? We all faced a lot of change in 2020 – like it or not. We were all reeling at times, striving to develop new ways of doing what must be done in the face of a future that was like nothing we had ever before even considered.

The people who thrived are the ones who took into consideration the need for change as well as the importance of stability. The teams who flourished found ways to look at everything differently while holding on to the things that mattered most.

Whether in your personal life, your family life, or your work environment, here are some key components for change while maintaining stability:

Communication. This must be at the core of any strategy for change. People will pull together for a great purpose and change where necessary IF they understand the need, the path, and the goal. They need an endgame. Bring the vision to life through concise and effective communication. And not just once, or in one form – it takes repetition and assurance throughout the process. Remember, people learn in different ways. They may need to hear it, read it, and see it in action.

Listen. This process of communication is a two-way street. Listen to the responses, answer questions, and hear the needs of those around you. They will tell you the things you may not have considered. Every change facilitator has much to learn from those around them!

Buy In. You can move toward change all you want, but if your team or your family isn’t behind it, you will not be as successful as you could otherwise. Consider how everyone can play a part. Allow your family – yes even your kids – to chart out this new adventure together. As a leader, ask your team to help every step of the way with important aspects like timing, how to maintain stability, and sharing the vision.

Adaptation. Be adaptable. If the change isn’t working, if people are expressing valid concerns, change yet again. It is funny how even in change, we can get fixated and stuck on one particular new direction. The decision has been made to change and we are not changing it!

We need visionaries and we need stabilizers. God has given us different skills and temperaments so that together, we can grow and adapt in a healthy environment. You can survive whatever change is ahead and come out safe and sound!

– love, Ginger

 

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